How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you.........

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.  

Reflection: If you do this you are going to be welcomed anywhere you go to. By you being interested in other people you get to learn more about them and they get to know more about you. You can ask them questions that they would like to answer. Let others know that they are welcomed any time they want to go over. Do this so that others can see how you really are. Be genuinely with everyone you meet at first. "The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life." This quote means that you just have to be genuinely interested in every little thing in life.  

Rule 2: Smile 

1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you." 

2)"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile." 

3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

Reflection: This is saying that no matter what we always have to smile. If you smile you can make others smile as well. Smiling makes others around you want to smile because they see you smile. If they see you smile and they don't smile because something is wrong make them smile and make them forget the problem they are going through. "A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside." This means that when people see you smile it means that you care. You should always let people know that you care and make them smile. 

Rule 3: Remember names 
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble." 
Reflection: You have to remember names so you can be able to keep on communicating with others. By remembering names you get to still keep in touch with others. It is important to remember other peoples names because its better to call others by their name and not "hey you." To me it is respect to call others by name. When you don't remember other peoples name it can show that you are not interested.
How to Remember Names  
Repeat the name       Spell it out 
Seeing faces             Write it down 
Give full attention     Make an association 

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be good conversationalist, be an attentive listener." 
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you an your problems." 
Active listening 
1.Stay focus 2. Really listen  3. Allow periods of silence 4. Repeat the other person's words 5. Understand the emotions behind the words 
Reflection: "We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." We should all listen to what others have to say because when you talk and say something they can actually be listening to what you are saying and understanding what you are going through. "Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply." Be a great listener to others be there for them. 

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest. 
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most." 
Reflection: We should talk to others about what they like and you can have a better conversation with them. You get to have a better relationship with the other person if you both talk about your guys is interest. I think that you can conversate more with a person if you talk about what you both like that you want to keep talking with them 

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely. 
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
 Reflection: If you are around someone you should always make them feel comfortable with you. Make others feel important when they are with you. Get to know each other. Be able to communicate and keep a conversation with the other person about what they like or anything in general. Make them feel important in the way you talk to them.





25 ways to make people feel important.

1. Make eye contact when others speak.
2. Make them feel good about themselves. 
3. Compliment them on their appearance.
4. Let them know what you find interesting rare about them. 
5.   Encourage them to go for something they want but are scared to pursue.
6. Comfort them.
7. See potential in them. 
8. Give them a hug when they’re feeling down, and hold it just a little longer than usual.
9.  Share your fears with them to let them know you’re not afraid to be vulnerable with them
10.  Offer to stay with them when they’re sick, just in case they need anything.
11.  Recognize when they’re feeling down on themselves and say, “I think you’re awesome, and I hope you know it!”
12. Ask how their day is going.
13. Give them a call when they need someone to talk to. 
14. Praise them when something good happens to them. 
15. Start a conversation with, “It’s really amazing how you…”
16. Give them a hug when they are feeling down or just in general. 
17. Have them over to catch up on things. 
18. Include them in a group event to show you consider them part of the gang.
19. When you’ve been busy, say, “I haven’t had much time lately, but I miss you! When can we get together and catch up?”
20.  Devote a weekend day or night (or both) to spending time together instead of squeezing them in for a quick lunch.
21. Tell them you believe they can achieve their dream—and why.

Reflection: If you actually follow these six ways you get to meet new people and get the advantage to communicate with others well. You get to see what you and the other person have in common. 

The six attitudes of high achieves

"The Six Attitudes of High Achievers" 

John R. Noe 

1. Make no small plans

This means that if you make plans go big. For example your future we will always want to have big plans for ourselves. We all want what is best for ourselves none of us want to have a bad future. We all need big plans to aim high. We should always have big plans for ourselves and reach them. You cant just say you want something and not work on it to reach what you want. I think that in life everybody wants something big for themselves. We all have big plans for our future and some of us reach where we want to be and sadly some of us don't.  We all need motivation to accomplish our big plans. Don't make little plans for yourself have big plans.  

2. Do what they fear

Do what they fear is to do what others think is too much for them to do. To taking advantage of all the opportunities you have don't fear what others may fear. Do what you need to do to get to what your goal in life is. Never fear what others fear always go all out for what you need to do. Show people that you can reach your goal if you put in all your hard work. I think that we all need motivation from someone in your life to accomplish what you want to accomplish. We shouldn't fear what others fear we can show others that anything is possible if you set your mind to it.


3. Are willing to prepare 
Willing to prepare is to do what you have to do reach where you want to be in life. If you're walking down the right path and you're willing to keep walking, eventually you'll make progress. You shouldn't let anybody tell you, you won't make it they are just bringing you down. Never listen to what anybody has to say just do what you have to do even if you have to do it alone. Be willing to prepare anything you want in life. Put in work for what you want. Prepare yourself for the better.

4. Are willing to risk failure 

When you are willing to risk failure it can be because you are ashamed and don't want people to see what you can really do. I think that nobody should be willing to fail in life. We should all focus on what we want to do for ourselves and reach our goal. We are all going to fail in life many times but we all need to get back up and be better at it. Everyone fails to reach their goal. We will fail but we all need to realize that you wont do great at the first try we need to keep trying.




5. Are teachable 

I believe that there is many people that are teachable. We all learn from different ways. "Be ready to be a beginner every morning." This quote says that we are going to learn something new everyday. We all should be willing to listen to others and be teachable you are not right about everything nobody is. We should all be willing to learn and be teachable to others that may not understand it. Be determined to learn everything you can. If you learn then you can be teachable and help the ones around you.



6. Have heart 
 Have heart is to something but that comes from you and not just because someone tells you to do it. For example if someone asks you for help don't do it if you are going to ask for something in return. Do something for another person because you are doing it by heart. "A grateful heart is a beginning of greatness. It is an expression of humility. It is a foundation for the development of such virtues as prayer, faith, courage, contentment, happiness, love, and well-being."  Be able to show others what you truly are inside and not what they see in the outside. I believe that everybody has a heart but sometimes people don't like to show how they really are in the inside.

Reflection: I think that you need to be all these 6 attitudes if you want high achievers for yourself. Each one has something that you can learn from it and be a better person. You can become a better person and probably help others become a better person as well. I commit to try my best and be each one of these attitudes. 

Way to be

9 Ways to be Happy and Make Something of your Life 

Gordon B. Hinckley 

1. Be Grateful 

To me being grateful is to be happy about what you have. Many people out there may not have what you have and may wish to have some things that you have. Always be grateful for the small things or big things that you have in life. Be grateful and appreciate what you have. We should wake up each day and be grateful for another day of living. Whatever life throws at you accept it and be grateful about it. Also be grateful for the people you have in your life and have helped you.

 
   2. Be Smart
To be smart is to think about the good thing be smart about what you think. "Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose." - Bill Gates Which means that just because you are smart doesn't mean you can't lose anybody can lose. We should all just be smart about what we do. Be smart about what you say. What i will do is just think about what seems smart.

3. Be involved in good works 
Be involved in good works is to always be into good things for you. Join anything that is good for you, you can learn from it as well. When you do good work people notice it. You can push yourself to do good work. When you do good work you can share what you have done with others. Do good work and people will notice what you are doing and can probably join you. "You only do good work when you're taking risks and pushing yourself." What i will do is try to be involved in good work for myself.

4. Be clean 

Being clean is to stay clean and always stay clean in every way. Think about what you are going to say or do. Always do what is best for you don’t go off doing what others tell you to do. Stay clean in every way you can be clean about everything. “There are those who love to get dirty and fix things. They drink coffee at dawn, beer after work. And those who stay clean, just appreciate things. At breakfast they have milk and juice at night. There are those who do both, they drink tea.”  It’s simple you just always have to be clean.

5. Be True

Being true is always staying true with everything. To never say anything if its not true. Be true to yourself and to everyone around you. Stay True to everything. Be true to yourself never go by anybody else or change for anybody else. Never lie about anything big or little. "It's important to be true to yourself and your vision." Always believe in yourself and don't let anybody change your mind or what you see just because they see something different than you.

6. Be Positive

To be positive is to always think good about the situation. Always think positive about  yourself just simply any situation you are in. Positive anything is better than negative nothing. When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It's all a matter of perspective. I think that when you are positive about anything it shows that you are confident about yourself. Never be negative or think negative about the situation you are in believe in yourself you can get more things done that way. Anything is possible if you have the mindset and the will to desire to do it and put the time in. Showing positive actions can also make others around you want to be positive about anything. We should encourage anybody that you see that is being negative to always think positive and be positive. 

7. Be Humble  

Being humble is having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance. Be grateful about what you have. Never be afraid about the mistakes you make admit your mistakes. Avoid bragging don't brag about something you have. Appreciate the talents and qualities of others. Stop comparing yourself to others just be you. Every individual is unique. Appreciate people for who they are as human beings, not for their skills and appearance in relation to yours.Instead of simply saying you are humble and as a person you will make mistakes, you should also concentrate on living with that mindset being humble is a way of life, not a one time action. Compliment others help people out. Listen more than you talk. Learn to admit when you are wrong and don't allow your pride to allow you to feel that your actions are justified. Be loving and kind hearted at all times you never know when someone might need to reach out to you. Be kind and considerate. Help others out and let them know you are there for them. "The true way to be humble is not to stoop until you are smaller than yourself, but to stand at your real height against some higher nature that will show you what the real smallness of your greatness is."

8. Be still 

Being still is to just stay still 7 let everything that needs to happen, happen. I assume it means to be at a stable point in your life, and having everything together. Having everything together and being prepared, means being responsible, and caring about yourself. No one in the world is going to care about you like you do for yourself. Being still is to just be yourself have everything together stay true to everything. "Learning how to be still, to really be still and let life happen that stillness becomes a radiance." - Morgan Freeman. To me this quote means that you just have to be you and let things happen because everything happens for a reason. We have to accept when things happen because they were going to end up happening sooner or later. Everyone should just be themselves and not try to be something they are not. Everything takes time, just be still and let life happen.   

9. Be Prayerful  
 An action or event characterized by or expressive of prayer. 




Reflection:  These 9 ways can help many people out if you think about it. It can help others realize many things. Makes you realize that if we actually do these things we can all become a better person. I have realized that we all have to be all these 9 ways to be a better person also be following these 9 ways we can also make others realize that they can too. What i commit to is just to follow all these ways to be a better person for myself. 

Commitment

Commitment 

Definition: state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.

Quote: "Commitment is an act, not a word." - Jean-Paul Sartre

Reflection: This quote is saying that committing

yourself is an act and not just you saying it. By committing yourself to something you have to actually mean it and do it not just saying you are going to do something. For example you can stay committed to school and finish high school and have all your credits that you need. You have to be committed to something if you actually want to accomplish it. I think we should all be committed to something that will motivate us to do better and that will help us do better. 

Personal Development Quote

"The key to freedom is obedience. The more obedient we are, the more freedom we have."

- Boyd K. Packer 

Attribute: Obedience, freedom

Reflection: I think this quote is saying that if we obey everything we will get freedom. The more we obey the more freedom we get. For example by always being obedient and doing what is right you get more privileges and get more out of it. I believe that by always be obedient and doing what is right you will get more in the future. I think everyone should be obedient on what they have to do because by being obedient you will have more and will get to do more. This quote is a really good quote in my opinion because it seems right and in my opinion it is right. "The key to freedom is obedience." 

This quote can be related to my 100+ goals by comparing what my goals are. What I mean by that is that looking at what my goals are and seeing if they are good goals to accomplish. 

A Smile

A Smile 

Definition: form one's features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed 

Quote: "A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside." - Denis Waitley 

Reflection: This quote is saying that a smile can show anything. For example a smile can show whether you car happy or sad. A smile can be everything. Smiling can be so great to others. Smiling in front of other people can tell that that you are happy and smiling for a reason. When you are smiling you are letting others know that you are happy. Sometimes when you are smiling you can make others smile with your smile. 

kindness

Kindness 

Definition: the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate 

Reflection: Kindness can be something you earn. Always be kind and others will be kind to you. To me be kind to others seems right. Being kind feels right doing something for others and seeing them smile is right. Kindness leads to many of the virtues to which we value and desire. Being kind makes other be happy because you are being kind to them. Kindness can be the key to success. Kindness will alwasy bring you happiness becasue you are doing kind things for others.

9/11

911 Memorials 

• On September 11, 2001 they had hijacked airlines and carried out suicide attacks against targets in the united states.
•  Two of the planes were flown into the towers of the World Trade Center in New York City, a third plane hit the Pentagon just outside Washington, D.C., and the fourth plane crashed in a field in Pennsylvania. 
• Over 3,000 people were killed during the attacks in New York City and Washington, D.C., including more than 400 police officers and firefighters.
• The attackers were islamic terrorist from Saudi Arabia and several other arab nations.

Decisions determine destiny

"Decisions Determine Destiny" 

by Thomas S. Monson 

Reflection: This quote means that what you decide is what will determine your destiny. For example if you are always doing things you aren't supposed to then most likely you will have a bad future. Otherwise if you do what you have to do then you can have a good future for yourself. I can say that this is actually a pretty good quote because it is true that decisions determine destiny. We should always decide for the better always go for what seems a good decision for ourselves.

This can relate to my 100+ goals because what you want to accomplish you can do if you decide to always choose the right.

Caring

Caring 

Definition: Displaying kindness and concern for others 

"Caring about people, about things, about life is an act of maturity." -Tracy McMillan

Reflection: This quote is saying that when you start caring about what you do its maturity. Once you care about what you do to me it means that it matters to you be you worked for it because you wanted that. I like this quote because I believe its true once you start caring for the things you do and also care for other people to me it means that you actually care about what matters to you. 

Boldness

Boldness 

Definition: not hesitating or fearful in the face of actual or possible danger or rebuff courageous and daring not hesitating to break the rules of propriety

- "Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it." - W.H Murray

Reflection: This quote is saying that you can do whatever you want or what you dream about that you want to accomplish. Boldness has power and magic and that can help you with what you want to accomplish. You can do anything you want to do

Attitude

Attitude 

•  settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something reflected in a persons behavior
• "Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference." - Winstom churchill

Reflection: This quote is saying that attitude makes a big difference. Attitude can be good or bad in my opinion. For example you can be in a situation where you might be in trouble and you are just giving attitude to the person like talking back is a bad attitude you should just be able to listen to what they have to say. Good attitude simply is just like having good things to say to the other person. Attitude can say so much about you the way you are and act. 

Personal Development Quote

"A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder."  -Thomas Carlyle

Reflection: This quote by Thomas Carlyle is a really good quote as you can see. I think that the quote is trying to say that people need goals to live there life. I believe that personally we actually do need goals in life to actually enjoy the life they're living. Having goals makes life even more exciting because with goals you actually want to accomplish so much and do so many things that you probably didn't know you could do. 

This quote relates to my 100+ goals because we all have goals in life that we would want to accomplish. 

assertiveness

Assertiveness 

• confidently aggressive or self-assured positive aggressive dogmatic
• "The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything." - Warren Buffett 

Reflection: This quote is trying to say that if you want to be successful you have to say no to a lot of things. You have to do you because nobody is going to be there for you but yourself. Being successful you have to be able to say no to a lot of things because you only have to worry about yourself. I like this quote because to me it is true because if you really want to be successful you really do have to be saying no to most things. 

Accountability

Accountability 

• fact or condition of being accountable; responsible 
• "Eventually we all have to accept full and total responsibility for our actions, everything we have done, and have not done.”

                    Reflection: This quote is saying that we all at some point have to accept what we have     done. For example if we do something that is wrong you cant go off blaming someone else for            what you did you would have to own up to what you have done.