How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six Ways to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you.........

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.  

Reflection: If you do this you are going to be welcomed anywhere you go to. By you being interested in other people you get to learn more about them and they get to know more about you. You can ask them questions that they would like to answer. Let others know that they are welcomed any time they want to go over. Do this so that others can see how you really are. Be genuinely with everyone you meet at first. "The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life." This quote means that you just have to be genuinely interested in every little thing in life.  

Rule 2: Smile 

1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you." 

2)"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile." 

3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

Reflection: This is saying that no matter what we always have to smile. If you smile you can make others smile as well. Smiling makes others around you want to smile because they see you smile. If they see you smile and they don't smile because something is wrong make them smile and make them forget the problem they are going through. "A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside." This means that when people see you smile it means that you care. You should always let people know that you care and make them smile. 

Rule 3: Remember names 
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble." 
Reflection: You have to remember names so you can be able to keep on communicating with others. By remembering names you get to still keep in touch with others. It is important to remember other peoples names because its better to call others by their name and not "hey you." To me it is respect to call others by name. When you don't remember other peoples name it can show that you are not interested.
How to Remember Names  
Repeat the name       Spell it out 
Seeing faces             Write it down 
Give full attention     Make an association 

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
"If you aspire to be good conversationalist, be an attentive listener." 
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you an your problems." 
Active listening 
1.Stay focus 2. Really listen  3. Allow periods of silence 4. Repeat the other person's words 5. Understand the emotions behind the words 
Reflection: "We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak." We should all listen to what others have to say because when you talk and say something they can actually be listening to what you are saying and understanding what you are going through. "Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply." Be a great listener to others be there for them. 

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest. 
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most." 
Reflection: We should talk to others about what they like and you can have a better conversation with them. You get to have a better relationship with the other person if you both talk about your guys is interest. I think that you can conversate more with a person if you talk about what you both like that you want to keep talking with them 

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely. 
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
 Reflection: If you are around someone you should always make them feel comfortable with you. Make others feel important when they are with you. Get to know each other. Be able to communicate and keep a conversation with the other person about what they like or anything in general. Make them feel important in the way you talk to them.





25 ways to make people feel important.

1. Make eye contact when others speak.
2. Make them feel good about themselves. 
3. Compliment them on their appearance.
4. Let them know what you find interesting rare about them. 
5.   Encourage them to go for something they want but are scared to pursue.
6. Comfort them.
7. See potential in them. 
8. Give them a hug when they’re feeling down, and hold it just a little longer than usual.
9.  Share your fears with them to let them know you’re not afraid to be vulnerable with them
10.  Offer to stay with them when they’re sick, just in case they need anything.
11.  Recognize when they’re feeling down on themselves and say, “I think you’re awesome, and I hope you know it!”
12. Ask how their day is going.
13. Give them a call when they need someone to talk to. 
14. Praise them when something good happens to them. 
15. Start a conversation with, “It’s really amazing how you…”
16. Give them a hug when they are feeling down or just in general. 
17. Have them over to catch up on things. 
18. Include them in a group event to show you consider them part of the gang.
19. When you’ve been busy, say, “I haven’t had much time lately, but I miss you! When can we get together and catch up?”
20.  Devote a weekend day or night (or both) to spending time together instead of squeezing them in for a quick lunch.
21. Tell them you believe they can achieve their dream—and why.

Reflection: If you actually follow these six ways you get to meet new people and get the advantage to communicate with others well. You get to see what you and the other person have in common.